Learning to Let Go

Learning to Let Go

I have always had the dream to dance. I have been told that I have long legs and when I see ballet, I love the way ballet dancers look, so graceful, controlled, elegant and all that. The love story they tell puts you in a trance.

I love all types of dancing but my favorite is Latin..talk about sensual..hmmm hmmmm. It really connects you with your partner; dancing partner and relationship wise especially if the person you’re in a relationship with also has the love and passion for dancing.

I decided some time aback to go after fulfilling that passion that resided in me for over 27 years. An opportunity presented itself in close proximity to me where classes are being offered and without even thinking, I started the classes the same day. After all, there is no reason to think on it!

In starting the class, the first thing I was warned about is that the man needs to lead. What?! I don’t know about that. The man leading. You mean to say I have to just let go and allow the man to guide me?! Like hell to the no! I have always been leading and I am not too sure if I should just do that. Everything I have achieved in my life, it was on my own. My internal drive and aggression has taken me places that I feel accomplished while not where I want to be yet but I am grateful so allowing myself to let go for a man to lead me is unheard of. But hey, I am in a class so I needed to respect that and take direction from the dance instructor.

It’s been a few weeks and I can say I have gotten better. Noticed I said gotten better. At times, I am still prompted that there can only be one lead. The man. There can’t be two leads when dancing with a partner. Even if the man makes a mistake, he must learn to do the moves right or if the woman doesn’t feel the man is leading her right, she must find another partner who does. Now I like that!

Dancing has been therapeutic for me (hence my reason for getting better). Strange as it may sound, it has. I realized that I had to discover something about myself and dancing was the key. I had to learn to let go and allow others to be and lead me. It’s not always we as the woman that must lead. We need to be a follower and from what I have read in ‘Think and Grow Rich’, you must be an intelligent follower as intelligent followers make the best type of leaders. I am willing to be teachable and coachable and I am willing to follow intelligently. I am learning. Yes, it is still a work in progress to allow myself to be led.

Learning to let go can take many forms. For me, it is to keep my aggressive drive in check and see the best in others and to give others the opportunity to grow. For you, it may be allowing your children to lead you to be a better parent, a better co worker or a better boss or a better neighbor and friend. Be willing to be an intelligent follower and let go.

I assure you, it will serve you well in your personal growth and development.

Hit me up a reply by commenting below on what you have been doing to let go and what you have learned about yourself in the process and journey.